Is Marriage Obsolete?


Heidi and Seal, Demi and Ashton, Katy and Russell, Jennifer and Marc, Maria and Arnold, Ashlee and Pete, Scarlett and Ryan, Eva and Tony, Courtney and David…

Don’t get me wrong, I know that Hollywood works in its own time zone. But as I heard the news of Heidi and Seal breaking up I couldn’t help but wonder to myself…is marriage obsolete?

I don’t know what the statistics are like in the real world, but we always compare ourselves to celebrities anyways so why not now?

It’s just alarming how often people break up these days. For me it’s gotten to the point where I think if someone is “married” they’re not even red tape material. There’s always a “possibility” that they’ll separate, divorce, cheat. The wedding band is not the deterrent it once was. One might still get lucky, band of gold in tow.

I think perhaps this might just be the evolution of our species? We grow so quickly now. There is so much information out there, so much innovation, so much spirituality and soul renovations, that we are often wildly different from who we were years ago. Our desires and dreams seem to be the driving force s now in our lives. We ask ourselves “Who am I to the world?”, and we spend our lives solving that question. How many relationships have careers killed? And who is to say that one is more important than the other.

There is just so much more to do and see now than there ever was before. So many new experiences, and so perhaps so many more opposed wishes. Perhaps we should scrap the whole relationship concept. Or at least not put in place the hegemony that love should be every lasting. Maybe a 10 year stint is good enough. Afterall, no-one is going to hand you a prize at the end of a 50 year marriage. So if it’s not fun anymore why not just quit? I guess because our parents’ generation believes in “sticking it out” not giviing up…making it work..

But this is indeed a different time. Women no longer have to be long suffering wives. If they want to, they can pack their bags, put on their jimmy choo’s and catwalk outta there. Whereas before, the husband was holding most of the cards due to his bringing home the bacon.

I personally am an old romantic. I do want to be together ‘forever’ or at least in this lifetime…next lifetime..meh i’ll see what I get. But perhaps a Picasso type structure is more feasible? Change lovers like career phases or rather get an accompanying lover for a certain period or mood. Hmmm. It seems like that’s what’s happening anyways. George Clooney is a man with a plan and he’s sticking to it. He likes a fresh new hot thing in his bed every 2 years, and then it’s done. NEXT!

I do think relationships have evolved; marriage needs to evolve to something new….

Then again…the concept of a few hot lovers over the next 50 years…that’s not a bad deal.

Whatever you choose to do; just do you.


~ by doyouboo on January 28, 2012.

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