Flirting 102: Swag

Let’s keep it real, Zoe Saldana is hot. There’s no questioning that, but I’ll never forget a quote of hers I once heard.

“Look at me. I’m skinny, I have a big nose, no t*ts and no a*s, but in a room full of beautiful women, I would still leave with the most gorgeous guy.” Star Trek actress Zoe Saldana insists confidence is the key to her sex appeal.

I remember once watching her in that Nick Cannon movie, eons ago…I couldn’t be bothered to research the name…something about drumming. I looked at her and thought…hmm she’s cute, she’s alright, but there were prettier girls in the scene. But there was something about her; you couldn’t take your eyes off her; and neither could Nick Cannon…in the movie of course. I’m gon’ go ahead and say it. Girl’s got swag.

Now… I’ve been  living in a drought   single for over 2 years now but just recently the influx of eligible bachelors in my life has been as welcome as an outpouring from the sweet rivers of jordan. Testify! Just a few days ago I got reconnected with this handsome dude who hit on me about 10 months ago. 10 months ago I had other things on my mind including a possible deportation; in other words…99 problems and a d*ck wasn’t one. But now…things are different, he’s lost a bit of weight and damn he is just looking INCREDIBLE!

He sings, plays piano, breakdances, writes his own songs, AND has a functioning website. (this is a huge turn on in a sea full of limp non-starter musician fish). I was all nervous and awkward when I first saw him. DAMN! Could anyone really look and sing THAT well?! Apparently so. But I couldn’t really flirt. I was shy.

So, let me get right to the point. Flirting 101 would be, you know…bat the eyelashes, flick the hair back, do the over the shoulder smoldering look.  This part is the most important part.

Confidence; KNOWING you’re worth it; KNOWING you’re good enough and exuding that confidence. I always think to myself…hmm wonder if this dress shows off my love handles…does he think i’m cute? Damn…my lips are crusty today. NO MORE I tell you, no MORE!

Take a line out of Zoe’s book and dare i say it “believe in yourself”. Confidence, Swag, is potent when used correctly. It’s the eye of the tiger baby, go for what you want and don’t back down. Even better, imagine that it’s already done. After all this is the key to many of life’s greatest successes. When you have a dream or goal in mind you do the same. Fix your eyes on the prize and don’t take them off until you get what you want. Of course in dating things are a little different but you get my point.

So class what have I to teach you in this course?

1. Make sure to look your best, but even if you’re not looking your best; if you WERE looking your best…very best…HOW WOULD YOU FEEL? How would you walk, and talk? Capture that feeling and exude that.

2. It doesn’t matter who else is in the room, you are in the room, and you are the prettiest girl, boy in the room. Done.

3. Know that you’re worth it and a whole lot more; feel like you’re worth it; see your flirtation as having already gone successfully. See yourself as worthy, see yourself as the kind of person that they might want…that everyone might want.


OK that’s all for today. I’m going to put these moves to good use.

Go on now.

Do you boo.

~ by doyouboo on January 30, 2012.

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