Fake it Till You Make It

•February 2, 2012 • Leave a Comment

So I found this FANTASTIC comedienne, her name is “Big Les” or “Leslie Jones”, she’s just HILARIOUS!

Ok, now that you’ve witnessed her brilliance, just peep her vlog below. She talks about how female comics don’t get much of a chance to really present themselves to an audience, because most women are deemed to not be funny. Men, she says, get 1 full minute to prove their worthwhile on the stage and women, she says, are torn apart from the moment they hit the stage. What are they wearing? What do they look like?

I feel the same way about ‘female rappers’. Why do they always have to talk about sex? Really? I’m not into it; that’s why i could only ever listen to Lauryn Hill, cause she had something to SAY, and could make it sound dope too. But I digress.

She talks about faking it till you make it. This thought had been circling in my head for a few days…If you haven’t already noticed i’ve been crushing on this singer guy prett-ay hard. But NOW I feel like I’m in the place where I could approach him, if given another chance. Fake it till you make it is the name of the game. Most men when they come up to you may be (totally are…) shit scared, but when they approach you they act like frekkin’ Don Giovanni. Sometimes we can see through it, but you got to appreciate their balls.

Arnold Schwarzenegger tells how he used to walk around his BodyBuilding competitions as if he’d already won, he’d look at the other guys and tell them that they were wasting their time. Well it worked, he did win 7 Mr. Olympia competitions. So this is my new strategy going into anything I’m do. This will include acting as executive producer for a project a friend asked me to spear head…do I really know what i’m doing…NO!

Oprah often talks about how when she was getting into broadcasting she did the same. Faked it, till she made it.

So go on out there, DO the fake you, until YOU until you MAKE it BOO!

If The Chinese Get Their Own New Year …

•February 1, 2012 • Leave a Comment

December 31, 2011. I didn’t make the best decisions. In fact, I broke a promise to myself, before midnight.

The month of January, hasn’t been the best. I had fun, no doubt. But it’s time for me to be real with myself. And so I have decided that my new year starts February 1, 2012! That’s right, my new year begins in less than an hour. I’m starting fresh. New goals, new outlook, new rules!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Do you boo!

Doo Boo-ism: Comedy Clips

•February 1, 2012 • Leave a Comment

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Here at “Doo You Boo” we are all about feeling good…

We are all about putting some funk into your funk, and getting you out of a rut.

One of the best ways to lift your spirits is with some comedy. Usually when I’m feeling blue I just head straight off to youtube and type in comedy 2011 or something..this is my latest discovery. I think he’s kinda funny..Do You, Boo?

Enjoy

Russell Kane

Flirting 102: Swag

•January 30, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Let’s keep it real, Zoe Saldana is hot. There’s no questioning that, but I’ll never forget a quote of hers I once heard.

“Look at me. I’m skinny, I have a big nose, no t*ts and no a*s, but in a room full of beautiful women, I would still leave with the most gorgeous guy.” Star Trek actress Zoe Saldana insists confidence is the key to her sex appeal.

I remember once watching her in that Nick Cannon movie, eons ago…I couldn’t be bothered to research the name…something about drumming. I looked at her and thought…hmm she’s cute, she’s alright, but there were prettier girls in the scene. But there was something about her; you couldn’t take your eyes off her; and neither could Nick Cannon…in the movie of course. I’m gon’ go ahead and say it. Girl’s got swag.

Now… I’ve been  living in a drought   single for over 2 years now but just recently the influx of eligible bachelors in my life has been as welcome as an outpouring from the sweet rivers of jordan. Testify! Just a few days ago I got reconnected with this handsome dude who hit on me about 10 months ago. 10 months ago I had other things on my mind including a possible deportation; in other words…99 problems and a d*ck wasn’t one. But now…things are different, he’s lost a bit of weight and damn he is just looking INCREDIBLE!

He sings, plays piano, breakdances, writes his own songs, AND has a functioning website. (this is a huge turn on in a sea full of limp non-starter musician fish). I was all nervous and awkward when I first saw him. DAMN! Could anyone really look and sing THAT well?! Apparently so. But I couldn’t really flirt. I was shy.

So, let me get right to the point. Flirting 101 would be, you know…bat the eyelashes, flick the hair back, do the over the shoulder smoldering look.  This part is the most important part.

Confidence; KNOWING you’re worth it; KNOWING you’re good enough and exuding that confidence. I always think to myself…hmm wonder if this dress shows off my love handles…does he think i’m cute? Damn…my lips are crusty today. NO MORE I tell you, no MORE!

Take a line out of Zoe’s book and dare i say it “believe in yourself”. Confidence, Swag, is potent when used correctly. It’s the eye of the tiger baby, go for what you want and don’t back down. Even better, imagine that it’s already done. After all this is the key to many of life’s greatest successes. When you have a dream or goal in mind you do the same. Fix your eyes on the prize and don’t take them off until you get what you want. Of course in dating things are a little different but you get my point.

So class what have I to teach you in this course?

1. Make sure to look your best, but even if you’re not looking your best; if you WERE looking your best…very best…HOW WOULD YOU FEEL? How would you walk, and talk? Capture that feeling and exude that.

2. It doesn’t matter who else is in the room, you are in the room, and you are the prettiest girl, boy in the room. Done.

3. Know that you’re worth it and a whole lot more; feel like you’re worth it; see your flirtation as having already gone successfully. See yourself as worthy, see yourself as the kind of person that they might want…that everyone might want.

 

OK that’s all for today. I’m going to put these moves to good use.

Go on now.

Do you boo.

Is Marriage Obsolete?

•January 28, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Damn…

Heidi and Seal, Demi and Ashton, Katy and Russell, Jennifer and Marc, Maria and Arnold, Ashlee and Pete, Scarlett and Ryan, Eva and Tony, Courtney and David…

Don’t get me wrong, I know that Hollywood works in its own time zone. But as I heard the news of Heidi and Seal breaking up I couldn’t help but wonder to myself…is marriage obsolete?

I don’t know what the statistics are like in the real world, but we always compare ourselves to celebrities anyways so why not now?

It’s just alarming how often people break up these days. For me it’s gotten to the point where I think if someone is “married” they’re not even red tape material. There’s always a “possibility” that they’ll separate, divorce, cheat. The wedding band is not the deterrent it once was. One might still get lucky, band of gold in tow.

I think perhaps this might just be the evolution of our species? We grow so quickly now. There is so much information out there, so much innovation, so much spirituality and soul renovations, that we are often wildly different from who we were years ago. Our desires and dreams seem to be the driving force s now in our lives. We ask ourselves “Who am I to the world?”, and we spend our lives solving that question. How many relationships have careers killed? And who is to say that one is more important than the other.

There is just so much more to do and see now than there ever was before. So many new experiences, and so perhaps so many more opposed wishes. Perhaps we should scrap the whole relationship concept. Or at least not put in place the hegemony that love should be every lasting. Maybe a 10 year stint is good enough. Afterall, no-one is going to hand you a prize at the end of a 50 year marriage. So if it’s not fun anymore why not just quit? I guess because our parents’ generation believes in “sticking it out” not giviing up…making it work..

But this is indeed a different time. Women no longer have to be long suffering wives. If they want to, they can pack their bags, put on their jimmy choo’s and catwalk outta there. Whereas before, the husband was holding most of the cards due to his bringing home the bacon.

I personally am an old romantic. I do want to be together ‘forever’ or at least in this lifetime…next lifetime..meh i’ll see what I get. But perhaps a Picasso type structure is more feasible? Change lovers like career phases or rather get an accompanying lover for a certain period or mood. Hmmm. It seems like that’s what’s happening anyways. George Clooney is a man with a plan and he’s sticking to it. He likes a fresh new hot thing in his bed every 2 years, and then it’s done. NEXT!

I do think relationships have evolved; marriage needs to evolve to something new….

Then again…the concept of a few hot lovers over the next 50 years…that’s not a bad deal.

Whatever you choose to do; just do you.

Boo.

To Love or Not to Love: Fat Boys

•January 28, 2012 • Leave a Comment

 

I think it’s safe to say that I’m prejudiced. Yeah…I would go with that. But who isn’t? Hmmmm.

There’s that 90’s pop tune by “Vertical Horizon”

He’s everything you want
He’s everything you need
He’s everything inside of you
That you wish you could be
He says all the right things
At exactly the right time
But he means nothing to you
And you don’t know why

There’s this guy friend of mine here. He’s reliable, he’s sweet, he’s hilariously funny: has me doubled over; i know i can count on him, and truth be told he ain’t even bad looking. I like him. I feel like he’s the kind of guy that would be good for me and support me; and I know he likes me. But unfortunately I can’t seem to get over his weight. OK shoot me now. I’m judgemental and shallow. So it’s out. So now you know. But who isn’t?

I keep asking myself if I should cross that line, but of course attraction is important isn’t it? He’s kinda cute; and damn Biggie had his fair share of dames back in the day, but then again he had money and swag. You know what bothers me most? What bothers me is that I  probably care more about what OTHERS would think of us being together than what I think of him and I, or what we could be. I know that I’ll never go for it, that’s obvious here; I guess I’m just trying to reason where I stack my beliefs. You know there have been times when I haven’t been at my best, and wished that people would see beyond my outward appearance.

10 months ago I met this other guy; he approached me after we sang together. Lol, I practically ignored him, i wasn’t even slightly interested. He was/is cute and talented. But he was not on my radar. 10 months later I see him, he’s got this buzz (he’s on a TV show) he’s lost some weight and damn…how did I never notice he had blue eyes? Boys is KILLING it in the looks department. KILLING IT. Did i mention he’s a singer songwriter, pinaist and R&B crooner who has a regularly updated website and his sh** together? I guess that was my loss.

So I have judged and been judged. I should know better though. We can’t act like we live in a vacuum. We DO care what people think of us and our significant other. That’s part of the package isn’t it. I think mainly because they are a reflection of who we are; or rather what we think we’re worth. I wonder if I’ll ever get over that. I try to live my life not caring what other think.

But if I were living on an Island; all alone, with no-one to judge me; would I love up a fat boy.

I think I would.

Makes you think doesn’t it?

Y’all can’t judge me though, umma do me, and you can “Do You Boo”

Who Are You? – finding yourself in relationships.

•January 22, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Wow. I had this playing in the background while i surfed the web. Rode tumblr waves, looked at pretty pictures you know the deal.

It’s a pretty long as interview but really fascinating. it’s so easy not to blame ourselves for who our partner is. just as easy as it is not to blame ourselves when bad things happen to us. Some part of us must have attracted these ‘bad things’. If you believe in the Law of Attraction. and oh. I do.

Linda talks about how she was single for over 7 years and finally when she got back into a relationship; she realized she was still dating the same kind of guy as she always had. someone who was unfaithful, and dishonest; but whom she loved all the same. she asked herself…have i been this way with other people? have i been untruthful to friends, she didn’t like what she found about herself and it hurt real bad.

So I began to ask myself about my last boyfriend. I thought he was a bit selfish…am i selfish then? i thought he was unkind to people who couldn’t help him. Hmmm maybe there’s some of that in me. I thought he was cold. Is that who I am? Do I need to keep asking these questions to be able to move on? I haven’t been in a relationship for OVER 2 years now. But I know that when i get into a new one; I don’t want to be asking these questions again. I don’t want a replay of the same movie I saw 2 years ago. I need something new.

Hmmm I’ve got some work to do.
and maybe so do. you. boo.